🌱 As a Well-Being Coach, I know how powerful boundary work can be for folks struggling to find balance in their life.
As someone who has been in alcohol recovery for nearly 4 years, I know why boundaries are non-negotiable in order for me to sustain long term recovery.
As a seasoned HR Manager, I know how setting boundaries can be so effective in preventing long term burnout.
Creating boundaries in our lives is often not the difficult part…
…it’s sitting in the discomfort that comes after we execute the boundary.
Setting boundaries can be especially daunting for people pleasers, people who struggle with codependency, etc.
The discomfort that executing boundaries caused me was enough to keep boundaries off my radar all together.
This was until I had a near death experience caused by high-functioning alcoholism in 2020.
One day I was working in HR Manager job in quarantine, and the next day I slipped into a coma caused by pancreatitis.
After I woke up from being intubated for 16 days, I knew that my life was going to be totally different that moment on.
I had another chance at life, and boundary setting began for me immediately.
At first, it was tough. I had to quite literally remap and redefine what was healthy for me, both career wise, and in my personal life.
In the long run, and 4 years later, I can say that setting those boundaries in early recovery was laying the foundation to help me achieve not only long term sobriety, but better quality of life (ie: who I was going to surround myself with, time spent taking in information from the outside world, settings that I would no longer place myself in, career field, etc.
Boundaries ultimately protect my time, energy and overall well-being.
If you struggle with sitting in the discomfort that can come with executing boundaries either at home or at work, you are totally human.
Here are some things to consider:
1) Take time to reflect on boundaries you wish to create/change. Get curious with yourself on where your needs lie. Write it out. Talk to a trusted person.
2) Treat boundaries as a living document…a WIP. Just like how you are continuously evolving, so can your boundaries.
3) Communicate with those around you. We too often forget that us humans are not mind readers. 😉For example, if you have decided to stop taking your colleague’s calls after 8pm, you may consider communicating this to your peer rather than just ignoring the calls, which could lead to future tension.
4) Give yourself GRACE. Setting boundaries can be tricky. Not because the boundaries are tricky…our relationship dynamics are.😊
Let’s embrace the power of boundaries – both in and out of the workplace – as a catalyst for personal and professional growth!
Let’s work together!
I help organizations and individuals build RESILIENCE in and out of the workplace!
Find out more here: www.alisonlindgren.com
Services: 1:1 Coaching, Well-Being Workshops, Speaking